In the past couple of weeks I’ve not been drinking any
alcohol. This isn’t part of any grand
plan; it’s just for a short period of time for some personal health-related reasons. As I’m
not generally much of an advocate for Dry January or Go Sober for October,
it’s an interesting experience, which I wouldn’t otherwise have chosen.
I won’t deny that I seem to be fitter and more
productive. I don’t weigh myself, but I
seem to have lost a bit of weight – which is particularly surprising given that
I haven’t been able to exercise because I broke my toe three weeks ago. And I’m more likely to tidy up the kitchen at
the end of the evening rather than just leave it for the morning (or, more
likely, the following evening before doing the next round of cooking).
That’s all great, but what about that third element of the Radiohead song: being ‘happier’?
Well, in some ways now isn’t the best time to ask, as work
is far from perfect and my home life is facing some particular challenges (the
reasons I’m off alcohol in the first place).
But actually, that’s precisely what’s been interesting about the whole
experience.
Basically, I have an unusual energy and focus. I feel a little bit like I’m back at school,
working hard, being responsible and disciplined. But, like at school, it’s not making me very
happy. And that’s because having energy
and focus without a goal is worse than simply being apathetic. You’re a conformist without a cause. That is, for me, one of the positives of
alcohol: it distracts.
For some people this is a failing from a moral perspective. The sort of people who see substance use as a
‘shortcut’ to pleasure, which doesn’t offer real fulfilment. Personally, I am unsure what ‘real’
fulfilment would be, given that anyone who has ever had goals knows that
achieving them offers something less than satisfaction. Life, for better or worse, goes on, as
writers and philosophers throughout history have known.
For Dostoevsky, the answer to the illusory nature of
achievement seems to be the love of a good woman and a bit of religion.* And maybe, as
I’ve written before, ‘just surviving is
a noble fight’.
Alcohol, as used by many people, is a variant of Dory’s famous
mantra: ‘just keep swimming’. I was once
warned ‘don’t think too much’, and alcohol (on the surface and in the
short-term, at least) helps stop that.
To quote another 70s soft rock classic, ‘don’t let the sound of your
own wheels drive you crazy’. In
fact, that’s precisely what mindfulness is intended to do, for better or worse.
And rather than just being a personal moan, I want this
piece to have a broader point, linked to my
previous blog post about how drug-related deaths are about more than just
treatment services.
I’ve always been suspicious of the idea of ‘aspiration’ in
political discourse. Blairites offered
is as a warning to anyone proposing policies that weren’t carefully
triangulated and safe. The implicit
definition of ‘aspiration’ according to this approach has always seemed materialistic
to me – that people want more money, or more stuff, and they’ll just stay
docile if a ‘rising tide lifts all boats’.
Don’t
talk about redistribution because people want to believe that someday they’ll
be millionaires. (This is usually
presented as a patronising lecture from one well-meaning, middle-class,
top-down politician to another, complaining that they don’t understand ‘ordinary’
[read ‘working-class’] people’s ‘aspirations’.)
And when it’s not in the hands of third way politicians too scared to
talk about their actual beliefs, ‘aspiration’ as a concept is worryingly used
to explain poverty
as being caused by a lack of
aspiration.
But to bring this back to my moan, I think what I’ve found
difficult is that without the distraction of alcohol (and I mean the trips to
the pub as much as the actual substance – given that this is about ‘set’ and ‘setting’ as much
as ‘drug’) I’m lacking ‘aspiration’. My increased fitness and productivity is
without purpose, as there’s too much other stuff going to enable me to feel any
happier.
This isn’t a blinding insight, and I certainly don’t want
this to read like a ‘poor me’ post. I’m
well aware that there are plenty of people around me who are worse off. My point is simply to note that a lack of ‘aspiration’,
or visible, achievable life goals, is pretty common and not clearly related to
substance use. The fog does not
magically lift and a ‘purpose’ appear; and even if it did, most of the barriers
to this are still there whether the alcohol is or not.
Now I want to be clear that I am not comparing my situation
to an ‘addiction’ or ‘substance use disorder’, or whatever your preferred
terminology is. Neither am I suggesting
my life is terribly traumatic or hard.
But that’s precisely the point.
Something we know to be true is quite rarely applied to broader policy
issues: we often fail to think of people as a whole person, in a wider social context. Banal, perhaps, but given my previous post it
struck me that it’s still surprisingly worth saying. Remove the alcohol (or other drug) and, as I’ve written before,
that’s all you’ve done. Too narrow a
focus on substance use specifically, and how it is problematic in itself, doesn’t
help anyone.
Addition @ 4.45pm:
After an exchange with Aveek Bhattacharya, where we agreed that part of the challenge with going alcohol-free is that pubs - and therefore alcohol - are the default option for socialising and evening activities, I got thinking about specifically why I haven't gone to the pub much.
It's not just that I don't see their appeal when I'm not drunk; I often stay for a drink when I'm driving, and either eke out a small amount of beer or have coke, which I'm not particularly fond of.
And I don't think it can be that the mark-up on soft drinks offends me specifically - it's always cheaper to stay in if you just want to drink.
I think it's something about what I see as the specific appeal of the pub: not just that it's a different atmosphere from drinking at home, but that you're drinking something different. This might not be the case for everyone - often people might prefer the wine they have at home, or the gin and tonics they make themselves, and I don't know whether Fosters on draft is somehow more exciting than from a can. (I do, actually - there's plenty of research on the Drug, Set and Setting line that notes that the type of glass and the space you're in affects what you taste.) But for me, I think the struggle is getting interested in going somewhere to drink Becks Blue when that is precisely what I have available at home, but for a fraction of the price. I just can't compare bottled beer with cask beer, and most of the pubs I go to feature beers that I can't (or don't) generally buy in bottles anyway. But maybe I'm a special case.
*I was going to put this quote in the body of the text, but as I was typing it out I wanted to include so much that it’s better here. It’s from Notes from the Underground:
After an exchange with Aveek Bhattacharya, where we agreed that part of the challenge with going alcohol-free is that pubs - and therefore alcohol - are the default option for socialising and evening activities, I got thinking about specifically why I haven't gone to the pub much.
It's not just that I don't see their appeal when I'm not drunk; I often stay for a drink when I'm driving, and either eke out a small amount of beer or have coke, which I'm not particularly fond of.
And I don't think it can be that the mark-up on soft drinks offends me specifically - it's always cheaper to stay in if you just want to drink.
I think it's something about what I see as the specific appeal of the pub: not just that it's a different atmosphere from drinking at home, but that you're drinking something different. This might not be the case for everyone - often people might prefer the wine they have at home, or the gin and tonics they make themselves, and I don't know whether Fosters on draft is somehow more exciting than from a can. (I do, actually - there's plenty of research on the Drug, Set and Setting line that notes that the type of glass and the space you're in affects what you taste.) But for me, I think the struggle is getting interested in going somewhere to drink Becks Blue when that is precisely what I have available at home, but for a fraction of the price. I just can't compare bottled beer with cask beer, and most of the pubs I go to feature beers that I can't (or don't) generally buy in bottles anyway. But maybe I'm a special case.
*I was going to put this quote in the body of the text, but as I was typing it out I wanted to include so much that it’s better here. It’s from Notes from the Underground:
Man is a frivolous and incongruous creature, and perhaps,
like a chess player, loves the process of the game, not the end of it. And who knows (there is no saying with
certainty), perhaps the only goal on earth to which mankind is striving lies in
this incessant process of attaining, in other words, in life itself, and not in
the thing to be attained, which must always be expressed as a formula, as
positive as twice two makes four, and such positiveness is not life, gentlemen,
but is the beginning of death. Anyway,
man has always been afraid of this mathematical certainty, and I am afraid of
it now. Granted that man does nothing
but seek that mathematical certainty, he traverses oceans, sacrifices his life
in the quest, but to succeed, really to find it, dreads, I assure you. He feel that when he has found it there will
be nothing for him to look for. When
workmen have finished their work they do at least receive their pay, they go to
the tavern, then they are taken to the police-station – and there is occupation
for a week. But where can man go? Anyway, one can observe a certain awkwardness
about him when he has attained such objects.
He lovesthe process of attaining, but does not quite like to have
attained, and that, of course, is very absurd.
In fact, man I s a comical creature; there seems to be a kind of jest in
it all … And why are you so firmly, so triumphantly, convinced that only the
normal and the positive – in other words, only what is conducive to welfare –
is for the advantage of man? Is not
reason in error as regards advantage?
Does not man, perhaps, love something besides well-being? Perhaps he is just as fond of suffering? Perhaps suffering is just as great a benefit
to him as well-being? Man is sometimes
extraordinarily, passionately, in love with suffering, and that is a fact.